Marriage is Ugly!

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Caitlin FladagerFollow

· February 19 ·

Marriage is ugly, you see the absolute worst in someone. You see them when they’re mad, sad, being stubborn, when they’re so unlovable they make you scream. But you also get to see them when they are laughing so hard that tears run down their face, and they can’t help but let out those weird gurgling noises.

You see them at 3am when the world is asleep except you two, and you’re eating in the middle of the kitchen floor. You get to see the side of them that no one else does, and it’s not always pretty. Its snorting while laughing, its the tears when it feels like its all crashing down, its the farting, its the bedhead and bad breath, its the random dances, its the anger and the joy.

Marriage isn’t a beautiful thing, but it is amazing. It’s knowing that someone loves you so much, and won’t leave you even though you said something nasty. It’s having someone have your back no matter what. Its fights over stupid things, like someone not doing the dishes or picking up after themselves. And it’s those nights you fall asleep in each others arms, feeling like there will never be enough time with them. It’s cleaning up their throw up, or just rubbing their back when they’re sick. It’s the dirtiest, hardest, most rewarding job there is.
Because at the end of the day you get to crawl into bed with your best friend, the weirdest, most annoying, loving, goofy, perfect person that you know. Marriage is not beautiful, but it’s one heaven of a ride.

Thanks to Briana Delano for sharing this excellent article of reality! ❤️



Storms Never Last

Waylon and Jessie sang it years ago. “Storms never last do they baby? Bad times all pass in the wind”.

Many a relationship is forfeited over a bad experience, a bad choice or lack of forgiveness. We know how devastating adultery can be to a marriage. What about when you are single?

Red flags are red for a reason! Many people reason that “he” will settle down after the marriage – or – “she” will be faithful after babies are born. Maybe “he” won’t hit me again – or – maybe “she” will come home on time…. if they would just …. grow up.

Here are a few bullets of reality for you:

  • If he/she cheats on you now, you might experience the same later
  • If he/she hits you, you should run because it gets worse
  • If they won’t work now, you will probably support them for life
  • IF church isn’t important to them now…..
  • If they don’t seem to like children, you have a problem

Storms never last but you can get out of the rain …. js

Building New Relationships

My sixteen year old daughter asks a lot of questions about relationships. She would like a boyfriend. He would have to be a strong Christian, certainly not cuss or drink, listen to her problems, be mature and responsible, handsome and not needy. And accept her just the way she is….

I tell her to 1) Be nice 2) Be kind 3) do what you are supposed to do 4) Be where you are supposed to be……

Here are a few more pointers that work well whether dating, in the workplace or in general.

  • Don’t share too much of your personal life too fast.  Get to know a person before you confess all your faults.
  • Don’t have a closed mind. You have a right to your beliefs but it’s ok to let someone else verbalize their beliefs. You will seem more approachable and interesting.
  • Don’t gossip. It makes you seem spiteful.
  • Limit the name dropping. It doesn’t make you seem more important.
  • IF you are having a face to face conversation, do NOT allow the phone/text to interrupt. You can call/text back. Be a listener.
  • Limit your emotional outburst. Being overly angry, crying, being impatient or dejected will limit the interactions around you.
  • Before you make final conclusions about what someone is saying, clarify! It shows you are a good listener and might encourage the other person to rethink their statement.
  • Realize that many people are not as passionate about work/religion/social causes/ hobbies as you are!
  • Be humble. Goodness will show through.

What if the person I am around is unbearable? Hmmm! Well, after you have given them a chance, you might have to say “Excuse me!” and walk away.