Divorce Notes Week 5
FACING MY LONELINESS
It is almost impossible to explain how devastating the loneliness of divorce is……….
What is loneliness? ….Nobody Understands
Rejection by the Ex ….Traded in?
Rejection by family and friends …you aren’t family anymore!
Isolation …safer to suffer alone
- Self medication
- New Relationship
Dealing with loneliness
- Being single isn’t that bad
- Learn from it (what could I have done better?)
- Make new (safe) friends
- Allow others to be helpful
- It takes humility (don’t be self absorbed)
- Serve others (easy to find someone else who is also in pain)
- Reach out to and learn to know GOD
GOD’s Message to You: “ The LORD is near. Don’t be anxious about anything, but in every situation by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to GOD. And the peace of GOD which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Phillippians 4:5-7
MAKING FOR BETTER TIMES is the work of the Christian man and woman. It is the work of the church (the people). If we want something better for our communities, our nation and our world it is not our governments job, it is not someone’s else’s job, it is our job. What will we do today to make for a better world?
Walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time.” (Colossians 4:5, ASV).
We need people to love and love us. We need people to pick us up when we are down and we need to pick up others. The flood relief in Louisiana is a beautiful example of brothers and sisters helping one another. Tornado relief, hurricane relief…..truly beautiful to see the church respond when there is a disaster.
Why do we wait to have a problem to get in gear? Look around! While it might be a beautiful day in your neighborhood, people are hungry and homeless everyday. Somebody you know is going through a separation or divorce. There has been an illness or death in a family. Somebody has lost their job and can’t pay the bills. Parents are struggling with raising their children. Grandparents are sitting in a nursing home alone. A college student is away from home for the first time and trying to fit in.
Ok! Do I have a point? I have two.
#1: Love deeply the people that you have relationship with. Hug the grand children and your parents. Kiss your spouse and children. Spend time with your friends. Go and reunite with relatives. It will be good for you!
#2: At church………….teens need mentors so spend time with them. Learn their music and their language. Play paintball and stop laughing at people who look for pokemon (out loud anyway) and who love Harry Potter. Get to know the why of a subject. Same with seniors. Most of our WW2 vets are gone. Tell the remaining ones thank you for saving our world. Thank all vets for their service, even the ones who struggle with life. If you see a person with an addiction problem, tell them about AA or Celebrate Recovery. If you know someone divorcing, tell them about Divorce Recovery. Send a text or card of encouragement. Make a phone call. Buy a coffee!
Be a family.