How much influence do your Parents have in your dating choices?

Genesis 24………. Abraham was concerned that his son, Isaac would not find an acceptable (good enough, God fearing) woman to marry so he had his servant go find a good woman. When the servant located Rebekah, he provided a financial incentive to her family then asked her to go with him and be Isaac’s wife. She accepted this opportunity and became the wife of Isaac, mother of Jacob and Esau.

Here is the million dollar question…. would you allow you mom or dad to help you to choose the person you marry? Do you even appreciate their interest in those that you date? Do you see their involvement as an opportunity to use their wisdom obtained after years of experience in life to help you make a good choice or do you see this as parental interference?

Some more fodder for the cannon……individuals in arranged marriages in the U. S. (yes, it happens) have a very high success rate. We know that divorce is much too prevalent when we choose for ourselves. Statistics show divorce rates even higher when people cohabitate before marriage.

Isaac allowed Abraham to help him find a wife. Rebekah went along. Your thoughts…


What about pretty girls?

Genesis 6:2  the sons of God saw that the daughters of humans were beautiful, and they married any of them they chose.


I loved Lyndsey Waggoner the first time I saw her on TV! Believe it or not, it wasn’t on “the Bionic Woman” but on the pilot episode of the Rockford Files. I was a pubescent little boy of about 13, probably 100 pounds soaking wet. She was a much older woman but I knew a pretty face when I saw one.

Here’s the point. A boyhood “crush” on a TV star was fine as long as I was realistic and didn’t expect anything. If I had become obsessed and stalked her, it would have been inappropriate. I spend money and mailed her gifts, it would have been senseless. So, what’s the point?

When you are seeking a life partner, be realistic. You are a Christian and should be attracted to another Christian first. Ask questions like “will she go to church with me?” and “will she take the kids to Sunday School? When I met my wife I was interested in whether she would help my Christian walk. I knew I could be with a girl with a pretty face but I wanted a “heart of gold”.

In the Beginning! Starting Over in the New Year

adam and eve

In Genesis, we see the story of creation. God make the first man, Adam. Then HE (GOD) saw that Adam was alone and that was not a good thing. So, he took a rib from Adam’s side and formed a perfect mate. Not a superior or an inferior being but an equal. God also saw the sin of the couple and he had a plan. He redeemed them.

In Matthew 19, the Pharisees questioned Jesus about divorce hoping to trick him. Jesus pointed back to Adam and Eve’s relationship as the way it was meant to be. One man and one woman committed for life.

Many of you readers are single and waiting on that equal to come along. Understand that God knows you are alone and he is willing for you to have a relationship. Look around. Look in the right places. Use the resources available to you. It is ok to seek a wife or husband. We will go through some of the stories of the Bible this year and look at the right and wrong ways to interact with others. It is an exciting quest!

Check out the upcoming events. Though we don’t serve as a dating site, you cannot have too many Christian friends. And meeting someone through church is a good choice. So get out of the house and spend time with God’s family. Plan an event (something small like a brunch or larger like a retreat). Send a card and make a phone call to encourage. Take a friend to a play or a movie. Connect. Be blessed.