God Loves the Single Person (equally)…..

     It is interesting how churches attract different people.

     For example,  the Saddleback Church in California actively ***markets*** to middle class Caucasian families (Dad, Mom and the kids) ages 25-45. There are no apologies. Here are the lessons. Here is the focus. Here is who is expected to attend. Is that wrong?

     The Toms River Christian church has grown AFTER realizing that the local families and younger people were not attracted to the conservative message preached. They instituted an outreach to senior citizens and have grown with with it.

     Some (musical) churches have “rock and roll” praise or hip hop church.

     Even accapella churches are either “old school” or “new school” when it comes to what songs are sung.

     So….here is some info to stuff in your hat and keep your brain warm. Use it as you like.

  • 37% of Americans claim to attend church regularly (weekly). Probably about half of that number actually do. More elderly attend church than do younger adults. More women attend church than do men but the attendance of men especially fathers has a greater influence. So, Dads, go to church! (see below- borrowed from Barna)

If a father does not go to church, no matter how faithful his wife’s devotions, only one child in 50 will become a regular worshiper. If a father does go regularly, regardless of the practice of the mother, between two-thirds and three-quarters of their children will become churchgoers (regular and irregular). If a father goes but irregularly to church, regardless of his wife’s devotion, between half and two-thirds of their offspring will attend church regularly or occasionally.

A non-practicing mother with a regular father will see a minimum of two-thirds of her children ending up at church. In contrast, a non-practicing father with a regular mother will see two-thirds of his children not attending church. If his wife is similarly irregular that figure rises to 80 percent.

An American study found similar results on the impact of fathers:

  • When both parents attend Sunday school, 72% of the children attend Sunday school when grown.
  • When only the father attends Sunday school, 55% of the children attend when grown.
  • When only the mother attends Sunday school, 15% of the children attend when grown.
  • When neither parent attends Sunday school, only 6% of the children attend when grown.


  • Church attendees are happier, more content, healthier and tend to be 5 pounds *heavier* than non attendees. Maybe it is the pot lucks…..
  • 48% of the church attendees are MARRIED.
  • 29% are divorced and 31% are never married.
  • In churches of Christ, about 15% of attendees are not married: widows, divorced and never married….

So, one would think that God favored the married. It isn’t true. Joseph, Moses, David, Jesus and Paul all had their greatest successes as single men as did Esther as a single woman.

Paul warned in 1 Corinthians 7:32   that the single will not be distracted from the Lord…..the married person is responsible for family.

God loves the Christian equally, whether married or single. I hope your church does also.



God Loves the Single (person) Who Loves Himself….

   I have observed that many believers, both single and married exude an aura of misery. So many believers seem so unhappy. Gloom, despair and agony in high amounts. Why? We have the gift of eternal life, the good news, new beginnings, forgiveness of sins…..we are princes and princesses, the adopted children of the King of kings!

The Greatest Commandment

34 Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. 35 One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: 36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[c] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[d] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

I see several teaching points in these verses. Don’t dismiss the two worlds “as yourself”. Do you “love yourself”?

Maybe we need a little practice. Can I suggeste the following advice:

Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain. Phillippians 2:14-16

How attractive is the person who wears joy like a jewel, who finds good in all! Who can resist a person who loves God, themselves and others openly and with all their heart!




God Loves the Single Too!

excerpts from “God Loves the Single, Too” written by Gary Beauchamp (approx. 1974).

Many Singles feel like outsiders in the church. Yet Jesus was single as was Paul. Three major themes can be very helpful to the single.

First, you are a person of great value! God appreciates  and loves you as you use your talents as a 20 year old nursing student who pays her bills waitressing at the pizza joint or as a welder at the ship yard. Singles in the church are medical doctors, psychologists, salesmen, managers, ministers, plumbers, techies, truck drivers, rocket scientists, lawyers and dental hygienists. You might be a college kid or a senior citizen. You are the single parents, the never married, the widowed, the divorced. Many of you are surprised to still be single, shocked to be single again or devastated after losing a spouse after a fifty year marriage. God sees and knows your situation. He purchased your life at great expense with the sacrifice of his son, Jesus.

Secondly, there are answers to all the traumas and challenges of the single Christian from the all time best seller, the Bible. Your problems in life are unique but God has seen it all.

Lastly, satisfaction and security comes with a relationship with God the Father, Jesus the son and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. Take god at his word. Trust him, follow him and commit to him.

If you desire to live as a Christian single and overcome the major problems in a world turned upside down by changes in morals, values and expectations then you must know that answers are available. The single can expect a richer life, be a better person, find true joy and happiness and have a lasting relationship with their Saviour, Jesus Christ.

So, buckle up. Expect new thoughts about every two weeks. Comments welcome! Guest authors coveted! Upcoming events (managed by awesome Carol B.) are opportunities to fellowship and worship. Enjoy!


New Beginnings……………

     Happy New Year! 2015 is here (doesn’t sound right , does it? ) So, what are we going to do with it? And, don’t tell me nothing changes but the date! Below is a list of things that do or do not change with or without you  —-then a list of things you can change —–

  • Insurance deductables start over…..but, you also have new money to spend at the dentist…..
  • New Year’s Day brings alot of  excitement about sports, and quick disappointment for most!
  • The sun comes up…..the first Sunrise of the year is almost always pretty!
  • Church starts at the same time.
  • Work expects you to show up.
  • Politicians still lie.
  • Grass is green…………

So, what can I change?

  • Make peace with God. How, you ask? Pray! Feed someone who is hungry. Visit the sick. Be baptized.
  • Tell your family you love them….every day….act like you mean it!
  • Raise your children!
  • Understand that TV, sports, Nascar, Wraslin’, Hunting and Fishing are “hobbies” and “distractions” and we can spend less time being distracted.
  • Understand that though we have responsibility to work, we also have a responsibility to make the lives of others better through it.
  • Commit to other SINGLES including outings that encourage (see upcoming events!)
  • Be thankful!

Peace and love!