DIVORCE RECOVERY #8 AND WRAP-UP…ARE YOU ANGRY ABOUT CELIBACY?

I am a product of the seventies. “Broadway”Joe Namath, the bachelor quarterback, thanked the girls of NY for never being alone. We watched Charlie’s Angels (Farrah), Rockford (for the action) . Mini skirts, spin the bottle, Love Boat, Betty and Veronica, Ginger and Mary Ann (the girls had Bobby Sherman and DaI vid Cassidy) and James Bond. Later, disco and dirty dancing. It was the sexual revolution. Women’s lib said, “men are only good for sex, women can work and pay their own bills”. Men cheered!!!

Then I started going to church. Yes, in the 70’s, “I found It” I graduated high school in ’78. I learned that a Christian had a list to keep. Don’t drink, Don’t smoke (the worst sin because you were destroying the temple) and don’t have sex. “So, how far could you go before you are sinning?” I liked church and had good friends, read my bible, told others they were going to hell because they didn’t believe what I did…..

My Dad threw me out of the house at 16. Didn’t need me to tell him where he was going, I guess….I finished school, joined the Army, and straddled the fence. See, I had failed to keep a perfect list. Quit church and got involved…over and over and over….then at 32: divorced and hurting (with a hurricane to rebound from also) I went back to church and discovered repentance and forgiveness. Not a list!

I was alone (emphasis on alone) for 5 years. It was the best years of my life. I traveled. Went back to school. Came and went as I pleased. But, I did miss the intimacy of sex…..And yes, I was a bit angry about the urges and temptations that I was having to learn to live with. What about you??? Yes, many of you are more independent (my brother just went to Finland with friends-couldn’t have done that married). But what about celibacy?

ARE YOU ANGRY ABOUT CELIBACY? You were married and now you are alone. You shared an bed and now you have more space and an extra pillow…..I think it is ok to be frustrated. GOD himself did say that it is not good for man to be alone. And, the Apostle Paul wrote that is is better to marry than to burn (with desire).

But while you wait…. 1. Strengthen your relationship with JESUS! 2. Spend extra time with your children, family and friends 3. Take a trip somewhere you always wanted to go (and the ex didn’t) 4. Go back to school or better your career options 5. Serve somebody  IT IS OK to be angry but not ok to let it immobilize you. Relax and enjoy other things….

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