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Divorce Recovery- Week 8- FINANCIAL SURVIVAL

Posted in Uncategorized on March 14, 2014 by xybatt

Divorce Recovery- Week 8- FINANCIAL SURVIVAL

 

Financial Survival Tips

  1. Don’t spend to soothe the pain- the debt will hang around longer than the ex…
  2. Live within your means- are you humble yet?
  3. Do things for yourself- like? Cook, clean, wash the car, make coffee….
  4. Credit cards- Pay what you are responsible for then cut it DOWN…
  5. Limit legal expenses- honestly, the lawyers are not there to help you…just to spend your money…
  6. Budget- Get one. Follow it.
  7. Ask for help

Enter/Reenter the work force

  1. Time to get a job
  2. Go to school- Upgrade (especially if you don’t have children)
  3. Parenting vs. Providing (divorce should INCREASE parental responsibility!)
  4. Child support- there is NO REASON not to pay support. If you are receiving, this money is to benefit the children (time to put them first!)

“and my GOD will meet your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus” Phillippians 4:19

Unfortunately, with more divorce in our society, many children have a parent who is working both nights and weekends. Healthcare is run and maintained on the backs of single parents (mostly mothers) who work nights and weekends. Non- custodial fathers should be available to help with their children when possible and church leaders are needed as mentors and father figures. The modern day widows and orphans are frequently in single parent homes.

 

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Divorce Recovery Week 7

Posted in Uncategorized on March 3, 2014 by xybatt

New Relationships

  1. Existing Relationships have changed: in-laws are outlaws. Friends have chosen sides or run away. Couples treat you like a threat (why?).
  2. You feel shame for failure (and others will help you feel miserable)
  3. Healing takes time and time helps avoid mistakes

 

Can I Date?

  1. Is the divorce final?
    1. NO: you are married. You cannot date.
    2. YES: You are FREE! Why “date”?
    3. YOU are FREE! Take time to enjoy your independence……THEN
      1. AM I FINISHED with the relationship with the EX? No chance of

Reconciliation…not sitting around wishing I were there….not planning

Mayhem or murder (lol).

    1. NO: Consider counseling and reconciliation.
    2. YES: No more ex
  1. Is my relationship with Jesus complete?
    1. NO: date Jesus awhile. Time to serve at the soup kitchen, visit the sick

And lonely at the hospital. Pray. Fast. Meditate. Sing.

  1. YES: Continue all of the above and do a PERSONAL INVENTORY

 

What do I have to offer?

  1.  Are my finances in order?
  2.  What about children? Are they secure and protected?
  3.   Am I working and doing my best there?
  4.   Is my “church life”  healthy?
  5.   Do I want to date because I NEED something or because I have a lot to offer?

 

Can men and women “just be friends”

  1. Watch “When Harry Met Sally”. Billy Crystal will tell you………..
  2. NO. Sexual tension will always be there
  3. You can become attached even if you don’t want to keep them

 

The GRAND FINALE!!!!

 

LEARN FROM DIVORCE

 

DON’T TAKE ON TOO MUCH RESPONSIBILITY TOO FAST

 

GO SLOW

 

DATE GOD. HE IS FORGIVING.

 

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all of this through Jesus Christ who gives me strength (Phillippians 4:12-13)