100 senior citizens, all aged 85-95 years old were surveyed. The question was “at this point of your life, what would you have done differently if given a chance?”. Interestingly, none wished they had worked harder or done more overtime. None wished they had moved to Florida to play golf.
Thye survey says……..
1) most said that they wish they had loved more! Relationships! Most wished they had been more passionate about their faith, more passionate with their mates and more passionate about their time with their children and grandchildren. Many recounted missed opportunities; the missed recital of grandaughter Susie, not playing catch with little George or not going on a movie date with thie spouse. I can relate! I missed most of my oldest daughter’s great accomplishments. I saw a few T-ball games but missed the fast pitch no-hitter she threw in 10th grade. I attended high school and college graduation but learned of her engagement this week on facebook. And, why you ask. Work and bad decisions.
2) most said they wish they risked more! Many stories were told of opportunities not taken because of fear and doubt. A relationship that didn’t happen because he didn’t ask. A trip not taken because of uncertainty. Many men wished they had learned to dance with their wives. Many women talked about the getaway to a exotic place that they didn’t take. Now, mind you, not many of our seniors were saddened to have never sky dived or hunted grizzley bears but all had stories of things they should have experienced. One lady “never tried” chocolate covered bacon…..another didn’t go to new York to shop. A man wanted to go to Florida and attend all the spring training games. My dad and mom planned to travel the country in a “camper” and visit all the national parks. Never happened!
3) Most are disappointed in their legacy. “My life didn’t add up to much”. Interestingly, the job position didn’t help ease the disappointment. Many a VP of (insert here a title) is disappointed in life. “All that money and time and I don’t know anyone”. Hours spent in the position of power and prestige and even the lady with the cleaing service doesn’t care who you are. One widower who managed a Waffle House after retiring from a white collar career stated that it was the “best thing” I ever did! I worked and laughed and shared my time with all these young people and I know they really loved me. I am willing to bet that he touched the lives of many! Almost everyone wonders what thir obituary will say if written by others. Will it say “hard worker”,”good provider”, “church member”, “resident” or will it say “loving”, involved” and known for goodness”. Your legacy can start at anytime. Why not today?
In the movie, “COURAGEOUS”, Adam chose to delay dancing with his nine year old daughter and didn’t run with his 15 year old son. His daughter died tragically. He learned to run with his son.
What can you change today? Do you want to LOVE MORE? TAKE a RISK? What is your LEGACY?