Why can’t we communicate better? I mean, he or she is just another human being, right? I can talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime about anything but can only have a two minute conversation with my daughter on her 21st birthday……I can talk to University Presidents, doctors and lawyers, those famous and not. I can charm a snake, if necessary. So, why can’t I charm the one I love.
I think that first and foremost, I am not a good listener…I listen with the expectation of what I want to hear. And, when I don’t hear it…I tune out. And, believe me, I have practiced tuning out…..
To listen, one must shut the mouth and open the ears. It takes alot of practice. I know my worries are so much more important than what another person may be saying (lol here!) and this hinders my ability to listen.
After you hear something, clarify what you have just heard. Make sure you have the facts straight. Then answer kindly and compassionately….
Anyone out there who struggles with communication? Speak now and I promise to listen!!!