Shake up #4- Appreciate Those Who Enter Your Life!

So….who remembers the “generation gap” ? When I was a teenager (say…1975-78), the term generation gap was used when  the younger (under 30- “don’t trust anyone over 30!”) and the middle age had problems communicating (“kids nowadays are no good”- my dad and most of his generation. And, instead of honest effort to communicate, most just took a pass on trying.

Here’s the question? Is there still a distinct generation gap and is it an issue at your church? And, what does scripture tell us as a strategy to cope with it?

I am committed to helping those in the church who want my help. I care deeply about young adults because I know statiscally that about half will drop out of church. I care about single parents who often quit church and keep their children home with them. I care about hose who have never married, whether by their choice or the inability to find a satisfactory mate. And, I understand the pain involved in losing a mate to death, regardless of the age!

Titus 2:1-8 shows what the Father expects of us, an interaction of encouragement, teaching and respect.

Tell me your thoughts and how we can appeal to singles of all ages as we prepare for the upcoming LAUNCH Singles Weekend at Disney!!!


SHAKE UP #3- Send those exes back to Texas!

So, what am I talking about? I’m telling you what Paul told the Corinthians I 1 Corinth 7:15 “if the unbeliever leaves, let them go!!!!”

And don’t spend the rest of your life chasing after or feeling guilty about someone who is ruining your life! I’m not telling you to give up on a good man or woman or to force out a questionable one but you don’t have to obligated to some one who is shacked up down the road!  I think the saddest (and most pitiful) country song is “He stopped loving her today”. He loved that sorry girl til HE DIED! No thanks!

So, get the baggage out of your life. Heal. Move on.

Tell me the worst story about a bad ex who wouldn’t let you go (or a story about someone you knew- I’ll tell the first one) Or make comments about my blog 🙂

SHAKE UP #2- Don’t be so picky

Socially and eventwise, I mean. Make acquaintances wherever you go! Get to know people for who they are and find the good in everyone. A lady here in P’cola has the sweetest love and concern for a homeless man who hangs around her store. Oh sorry, his name is “Bob”. She sees a sweet, older man who protects her property as he sleeps on the bench at night. And, she discreetly has searched for a better place for him to live. In return, he is a true protector and treats her like a daughter. They found the good in one another!!

Commit to activities! Krissie wants your commitment to the Deltona singles day!  I certainly want it for the conference at Disney. The same with all your brothers and sisters who plan events for you! Don’t wait to see if something better will come up. Commit to your church family early and often. The same with home life. Pick an event and make a big deal out of it…and go. Don’t let being too busy or too tired keep you from enjoying life!

Knew a guy who couldn’t date a girl because she had “ugly feet”. He nissed the “pretty” face, figure and Christian spirit. Focus on the Godly!!!

Share your thoughts and Bible verses that relate!!!!


It’s a long route from desiring a friend/date/spouse (you choose) to having a good friend/date/spouse.  So, for the next few weeks we are going to discuss ways to build relationships using both the Bible and Psychology Today as references (funny that!)

So, #1- Get out of the house!! If you want a social life with a computer, then you can BLOG and FACEBOOK til the cow’s come home. However, at some point you have to get out of the easy chair, get presentable and go do something! Few people actually meet their friends through UPS or PIZZA delivery.  Go volunteer in the community, join a share group at church, go to a parade….anything! But get out!!

Might I suggest checking the UPCOMING EVENTS! Good Friends will be found at the retreats in Tennessee, Deltona and Orlando. I know! I met many there myself!!