Singles Weekend!

Launch Singles Weekend –

Schedule for Feb 15 – 17

6:30-9:00   Registration and Game Night (Snacks only)

*video* Butterfly Circus—–

Devo from Joe Palmer

Saturday, Feb. 16

9:00 – Welcome (Greetings, prayer and singing)

9:30 – Lesson 1-  Jesus and Zaccheus – Marcus Elliot

10:15 Break

10:30 – Lesson 2- Jesus and Woman with Issue- Marcus Elliott

11:15 – discussion

12:00- Lunch & Learn-

Mt. Dora Single Parents Program – Dave Hogan 

1:30 – GROUP PICTURE—Prayer and Praise

2:00 – Jesus- Parables of Wealth (managing yours) Dave Hogan

2:45 – Discussion – Jim & Dave

3:15 Free time

5:00 – Prayer and Praise

5:30 – Dinner—-Announcements—- OPRY!

7:00 ***Entertainment- ***    Panhandle OPRY!     OFF SITE!

                                                           Sunday Feb. 27

 9:00 – Bible Class- Why Every Church Needs a Singles Ministry

10:00 – Worship Service “ The Power Of Love”- Marcus Elliott

Potluck

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Undervalued

The United Press International carried a story recently (June 8, 2017) about a man in the UK who purchased a costume jewelry ring (an imitation diamond ring) for $13 back in the 1980s, only to find out it wasn’t what he thought it was. Three months ago the unnamed owner had the ring appraised at Sotheby’s Fine Jewels. After a close examination, Sotheby’s made several determinations about the ring. First, it was not costume jewelry, but a real diamond. Second, it was very old and dated from the 1800s, probably once owned by royalty. Third, the diamond had a total weight of 26 carats and was probably worth over $400,000. When Sotheby’s auctioned it off for the owner, an organization purchased the ring for $850,000. Not only was this a stunning return for a $13 investment. It is also an example of how grossly wrong people can be in their estimation of something’s value.

Our world frequently underestimates the value of many things – revolutionary ideas, burgeoning businesses, new technologies. But its worst underestimation comes when it dismisses the value of people. This is especially true in our culture’s estimation of family relationships and the roles of a father and mother. People who have grown up without a supportive father and loving mother are among the most pain-ridden creatures on the planet. In fact, our culture has waged war on family roles and values and has sent the steady message to mothers and fathers that their children aren’t worth their investment of love, time, and energy. Career, educational goals, and accumulating material wealth are presented as the true signs of success, and nothing – not even one’s spouse or children – should get in the way of these pursuits. Consequently, we now have several generations of human beings who have gone un-nurtured, un-affirmed, un-validated, and unloved by the parents who set them aside for “more important things.”

Just look at the movies we make today, the TV sitcoms, and the entire basis of our entertainment. It’s all marked by a cruel humor that makes peoples’ pain and misfortune the butt of jokes and that fosters finding pleasure in shedding blood and mutilating human bodies. More and more, it seems, we are losing the capacity to be kind, tender, and respectful of each other. More and more, we are overwhelmed by our inner pain and cannot control the anger that keeps erupting from within.

But to help humanity with its pain, we need to first find healing for ourselves. And that healing can only be found in the warm and loving embrace of our Heavenly Father – our divine Parent who created us in His own likeness and made us according to His own specifications.

No matter what others think of you and no matter how badly they underestimate you, your Heavenly Father loves you supremely and His opinion is the only one that matters. Let Him love you. Flee into His loving arms – the only place of true peace, healing, and love.

“The LORD appeared to us from afar, saying, ‘Behold, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have drawn you with loving kindness’” (Jeremiah 31:3).

PRAYER:

Dear Father in heaven, into Your loving embrace I flee. Accept me, O Lord, through You Holy Son, Jesus Christ. Wash me in His blood, cleanse me from every sin. Heal my wounded heart and fill me with Your love. Make me an instrument of Your peace in the lives of others I pray. Amen.

You do not need to face this challenge alone. Jesus has conquered this challenge so that you can move from your present situation to a life of overcoming. Invite him to lead you in your journey. He will forgive, comfort, and heal you.

Meet your Singles (2)

Many people in churches believe that “Singles Ministry” is about putting a group of college kids in a van and going to a retreat. Many also believe that the goal of “Singles Ministry” is to help single people date and get married.  Both are admirable efforts but a minute part of ministering to singles. Let me tell you a story.

  • “Susie” was married for over 20 years and has wonderful adult children (and grand children). One day her husband came home drunk and beat her up and she had to go to the hospital for treatment. She went home to him and begged him to get treatment, counseling and anything else so this wouldn’t happen again. He refused and told her he would kill her if she ever left him. Emotionally depleted and fearing for her health she did pack a suitcase and left. She has been basically “homeless” since. She sleeps on the couch of each of her children’s homes and stays with friends. Her faith is all she has left and it has gotten her through the divorce and keeps her going daily. Her job skills qualify her to make low wages and no insurance. With the help of friends she purchase a 15 foot travel trailer for $500 and is fixing it up to be her home. She allows church friends to help “a little”.
  • “Sandee” is a 22 year old single mother of a 10 month old. She is pretty and kind, intelligent and responsible. She is friendly with the married moms and active at church. She has great faith. So why is she a single mom? “Sandee” also loved being married and pregnant but one year ago her husband was killed in a car accident coming home from work. Widowed at 22! No peers in the community.

When Paul (the Apostle) addressed “Single People” in 1 Corinthians 7 he knew about the widowed, the divorced (put away) and those who had never married. He pointed them to Jesus first. He conceded that most needed to be married. Until or if that time comes, the church has a responsibility to encourage and support the “Single”.

Singles Weekend SCHEDULE!

Launch Singles Weekend –

Schedule for Feb 15 – 17

6:30-9:00   Registration and Game Night (Snacks only)

*video* Butterfly Circus—–

Devo from Joe Palmer

Saturday, Feb. 16

9:00 – Welcome (Greetings, prayer and singing)

9:30 – Lesson 1-  Jesus and Zaccheus – Marcus Elliot

10:15 Break

10:30 – Lesson 2- Jesus and Woman with Issue- Marcus Elliott

11:15 – discussion

12:00- Lunch & Learn-

Mt. Dora Single Parents Program – Dave Hogan 

1:30 – GROUP PICTURE—Prayer and Praise

2:00 – Jesus- Parables of Wealth (managing yours) Dave Hogan

2:45 – Discussion – Jim & Dave

3:15 Free time

5:00 – Prayer and Praise

5:30 – Dinner—-Announcements—- OPRY!

7:00 ***Entertainment- ***    Panhandle OPRY!     OFF SITE!

                                                           Sunday Feb. 27

 9:00 – Bible Class- Why Every Church Needs a Singles Ministry

10:00 – Worship Service “ The Power Of Love”- Marcus Elliott

Potluck

 

Singles Weekend!!

LAUNCH SINGLES WEEKEND
“The Power of Love”
Initial info:
WHEN: February 15-17
WHERE: Niceville Church of Christ, 801 E. John Sims Parkway, Niceville, FL 32578
HOW MUCH? …$49 covers meals and entertainment. MAIL CHECK to above address and MEMO “SINGLES”
WHY? Faith! Fellowship! Food! Friends! Fun!
Questions??? Call or text Jim Miller (251) 284- 3793 or e-mail xybatt@gmail.com
-MOTEL LIST –
with AAA  the following seem the best (in order of my opinion)
1A!- Hampton Inn- Niceville- AAA rates are great.
1. Comfort Suites- $98- Rated 9.0- in Niceville
2. Fairfield – $98- Rated 9.2- 8miles
3.Holiday Inn Express x 2 in FWB- $92 Rated 9.0- 11 miles
5. Hampton, Ft. Walton- $90- 9.2- 13 mi.
6. Holiday Inn Express – $111- 9.0- Niceville
7. Extended Stay Suites- Destin – $69 7.0- 12 miles
8. Quality, Regency in Niceville… about $74…rated 7.0………………
9. Country Inn and suites are near the Entertainment in Crestview…$79- 8.7 and 16 miles from the building…

Meet Your Singles

I feel like an old fool beating a dead horse. I really do. Believe it or not we have LESS singles ministries in the brotherhood now than ten years ago. But more people are SINGLE!! 52% of the population is unmarried. Most of the new mothers I know are unmarried and a lot of the dad’s have split. Divorce is higher in churches than among atheists. Social ills have increased and our children are endangered every day. Many do not feel church is a relevant place to be and many churches are proving them right!
If you want your church to grow…reach out to single mothers, couples who are struggling to make a commitment to stay together, the lonely who are recently widowed, divorced or just not able to connect. Be a home for the heart! Jesus didn’t pass by the woman at the well, the lonely and penitent Zaccheas or the grieving….. and we can’t either!!

 

Meet your singles:

Jennifera Christian Single from the D.C. area and works for the US Government

“The love we don’t pour out on a spouse made out of dust is made available to our Eternal Spouse. If we are destined to marry, we will discover how precious that “extra” love for God was.”

Matta Christian single from Montgomery, AL and the hardest working man in Alabama!

“Singles are the least served group in the churches of Christ! “

Hope-  is a college (age) business owner in Florida

“Churches don’t have a place for the young working person. I started my business at age 19 and own my own house. The “college and young professional” group didn’t accept that I don’t plan to go to college. I make a living doing what I love and am ready for a family. “

Jerry- a younger widower from the Atlanta area

“Widowers are also forgotten. I was fifty when my wife died just over four years ago, and I have long ago lost count of the number of times that I have left the Sunday morning assembly without an invitation to join someone for lunch. Singles are not likely to ask a married couple if they will have lunch, for fear of infringing on their time together as husband and wife. There have been entire months when I have eaten every meal alone, and the loneliness does not help to heal the grief. For me, not having any close family within 500 miles makes it even more difficult. There are no parents left, and I never had siblings, so the only close family for me is my daughter and grandson, and they are too far away.”

Beth- a young widow from Florida

 

“My husband died at work three years ago. I have 2 children. I’m 32 years old and have no peers. I don’t fit with the widows (though they are sweet and I go to the luncheon) and the college age doesn’t understand what I deal with everyday. I visited a local “denominational” singles group and appreciate the friends I have met but one of my elders insinuated that I was “falling away” and shouldn’t “fellowship” those people! The people at my congregation are limited in number and married. Help!”

Tommy- never married from Mississippi

“I am alone. Most churches don’t budget or plan for people like me and most of my friends don’t attend church…I may never marry and I am left out of many church activities”

Susan never married from Florida

I never found the right guy (or the wrong one). Saved myself for marriage and now I am alone in my 50s. I have learned to sit alone both in restaurants and at church but would prefer “company”. Why doesn’t the church budget or plan for me?

Bob- divorced Clovis, NM

“My parents were married until death. My grandparents were married 52 years…until death. My aunts and uncles, the preacher and his wife, the governor and his wife and everyone we knew was married until they died. Then my generation came along. MANY (many…many…many) divorces have occurred. Times have changed. Laws changed. Opportunities changed. And I sit alone at church.

When will we pursue the Singles in our population as potential church members?

Introduction to Singles in the Community…

****STILL MISSING FROM YOUR CONGREGATION****
Hannah dropped out of school at age 16. Wasn’t pregnant or rebellious. Just had a plan. She wanted to be a hairdresser. So she went to vo-tech and became one. She bought her own shop and is debt free. Beautiful girl too. Unfortunately, the local church College and Young Professional class snubbed her because she was “neither” college or professional. Good news though! Next year, after she gets married, she will have a place in the young marrieds group (at another denomination).

*****STILL MISSING FROM YOUR CONGREGATION*****
Curtis is (African American) young and socially inept. He lives with his elderly mother and they are the only people of race in his small congregation. He is a musically prodigy (plays 9 instruments) and has a job. Yet, people like him are not in budget or plans of many churches because he (nor his mother are married).

Update! Curtis married someone from another church group and now has a family. Sadly, he doesn’t attend where he was raised….