The Fruit of the Spirit is …Self Control!

 Self-Control

Definition: Having self-control means being in charge of your emotions, thoughts, words and actions. It means doing what God wants you to do rather than what you want to do. Being in charge of your emotions, thoughts and actions.

Bio: Joseph’s life is marked by self-control. Not only did he show self-control in resisting temptation from Potiphar’s wife, he showed self-control in how he interacted with his brothers when they came to Egypt to buy grain. He could have boasted like he did when he was young, but instead he control his emotions (he turned away to cry) and was able to rescue his entire family. (Genesis 42)

Bible verse: “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” Proverbs 25:28

Jesus: We cannot imagine the fear Jesus felt as he prayed to his Father before his arrest and crucifixion. He prayed that God would find another way to redeem us of our sins, but then he added “not my will, but yours be done.” This is the picture of self-control. It is submitting to God and letting him take charge. Jesus controlled his agony he felt while praying and let himself be crucified for us.

Real life: Jesse is a man of self-control. As a youth pastor, he is always busy serving others. He is available day and night for those who need him. It would sometimes be easier for Jesse to be lazy, to let someone else teach youth group, but Jesse chooses to submit to God and live with in God’s will, not ours.

In what ways can the children discuss self control?

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The Fruit of the Spirit is … Gentleness!

Gentleness

Definition: Being gentle does not mean being weak. Gentleness is a humble, calm attitude. Gentleness is having authority or strength of some sort and using it to guide others in a nice, non-threatening way. Having the ability to hurt someone, but choosing instead to guide them in a humble way that points to God.
Bio: Moses was a gentle and humble man. With God, he had the power to destroy the Egyptians, but he humbly submitted to God and did what God wanted him to. He showed God’s greatness not by yelling at Pharaoh, but by telling him what God would do if Pharaoh did not listen. (Exodus 7-11)

Bible verse: “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29

Jesus: Jesus showed gentleness to the woman at the well. He knew her sins and her need for him to be her savior. Jesus could have said, “you are a sinner and I’m the only one who can save you, so believe in me.” But instead, he talked with the woman and let her discover who he is.

Real life: My husband Aaron is the most gentle man I know. Our world thinks a man is “manly” when he is yelling and showing how strong he is. Aaron knows better. He knows that being gentle and submitting to God is what makes him a good man. Aaron leads me gently. He never yells at me or says that he’s the boss, so I have to listen. He listens to God and then leads me prayerfully.

Application: Children think of practical ways to be gentle.

The Fruit of the Spirit is … Faithfulness!

Faithfulness

Definition: Faithfulness means never turning your back on what you believe in. You always trust God and you are always there to help your friends and family when they need you. You do not forget about your responsibilities. Trusting God no matter what, and being someone that others can trust no matter what.

Bio: Abraham is the father of faith. To test his faith, God told Abraham to sacrifice his only son. Without questioning what God said, Abraham took his son Isaac up on the mountain, tied him up, and was about to stab him when God stopped him. Abraham was willing to give up what he loved the most in this world to show God that he loved him more. Abraham was willing to do whatever God said. (Genesis 22)

Bible verse: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2:8

Jesus: Jesus never lost faith in God’s great plan. Jesus was faithful to the prophecies in the Old Testament. He knew that he would have to die to save us from our sins, and he was faithful to do so. He went through so much pain, and he could have stopped it at any time. But Jesus stayed on the cross until it was finished, until he died in our place for our sins.

Real life: Gail has been my best friend for 12 years now, and for 9 of those years, we haven’t even lived in the same state! She is my faithful friend because she calls me often to talk and as often as possible, comes out to visit. It would be easier just to find a new best friend, but Gail chooses to be faithful to me as a best friend.

Application: Children come up with a practical way they can practice faithfulness.

 

The Fruit of the Spirit is … Goodness!

Goodness!

Definition: Goodness is actively showing that you follow Jesus by being generous and helping others. It means standing up for what you believe in and saying thing that need to be said, even if it won’t be taken well. Standing up for what you believe in and helping others to do the same.

Bio: The prophet Elijah showed goodness when he helped lead the people of Israel away from false worship and back to worshiping the one true God. He knew that what they were doing was wrong, so he showed them that the LORD is the one true God and that they should follow him. Elijah stood up for what he believed in. (1 Kings 18:20-39).

Bible verse: “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9

Jesus: Jesus showed goodness when he cleansed the temple of the money changers. They were sinning against God and showed no signs of repentance, so Jesus stood up for what is right by kicking them out and allowing people to worship freely.

Real life: Patsy showed me goodness when I was a freshman in college and needed food. She would have me over for dinner at least once a week and when she needed to, she had no problems telling me that there was a sin in my life that I needed to take care of. She did this because she loves God and she loves me.

Application: Children think of practical ways to show goodness in their own lives.

 

The Fruit of the Spirit is …Kindness!

 Kindness

Definition: Kindness is an attitude that puts others at ease. It is being nice to others and encouraging and uplifting them. Uplifting others through encouraging words and actions.
Bio: Rahab, as an inhabitant of Jericho, by no means should have helped the Israelite spies. She showed them kindness in hiding them and thus saving their lives. This certainly put the spies at ease! (Joshua 2)

Bible verse: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

Jesus: Everywhere he went, Jesus was putting those who needed him at ease. He showed sinners kindness. There are many examples of this in Scripture. My favorite is the story of the woman anointing Jesus’ feet with her tears. (Luke 7:3650) The Pharisee wanted to rebuke her, wanted to use cruel words, but Jesus simply forgave her of her sins. He was kind to her in the way he reacted to her.

Real life: Teri always shows me kindness when we meet. She always takes the time to ask how I am doing and she listens to what I have to say. She encourages me when I need it and helps me solve my problems and overcome my sins by accepting me and uplifting me.

Application: Kids come up with a practical way they can show kindness. (EG, sit with the new kid in the lunch room.)

 

The Fruit of the Spirit is Patience!

Patience

Definition: Patience is not getting angry when we want to, and not saying mean things when we want to. Patience is putting up with problems confusion, frustration and pain without complaining about it. Putting up with difficult situations without getting angry or complaining.

Bio: Job is known for his patience. God tested him by taking his belongings, his kids and his health. Job’s friends came to comfort him but only made things worse by trying to blame Job for what he was going through. Even his wife told him to “curse God and die.” Still, Job patiently waited on God and continued to believe in him in a very difficult situation. God blessed Job for his endurance.

Bible verse: “You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. Don’t grumble against each other, brothers, or you will be judged.” (James 5:8-9)

Jesus: Jesus is patient with us sinners. We keep following our flesh and doing what we know is wrong, but Jesus keeps on forgiving us and forgiving us and forgiving us. (1 Timothy 1:15-17)

Real life: My mom is the most patient woman I know. She runs a home daycare and always has kids running around, getting into trouble and demanding her attention. As exhausting as this is, my mom never loses her temper with the kids, or shouts at them or complains about her job. My mom has patience with the many children she cares for.

Application: Children come up with at least one situation where the need to work on patience.

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The Fruit of the Spirit is Peace!

Peace

Definition: Peace is being free from worry and fear and getting along with people around you. Freedom from worry and fear and getting along with others.

Bio: Shadrack, Mischack and Abednego showed peace when they refused to bow down to Nebuchadnezzar’s idol. Even though they knew they were going to be thrown into the furnace, they were filled with the peace of God and the knowledge that He would protect them. (Daniel 3:8-30)

Bible verse: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

Jesus: Jesus is the Prince of Peace, as we read in Isaiah 9:6-7. Jesus is the King of Heaven and can be the King of our hearts. When we let him be the King of our lives, he will fill us with peace.

Real life: I had a roommate who always showed peace. Even when we were broke and unsure we would be able to pay the rent, she did not worry. She knew that God would provide for us. Jackie always let God’s peace take victory over her worries and fears.

Application: Kids think of practical ways they can be at peace.

Patience
Definition: Patience is not getting angry when we want to, and not saying mean things when we want to. Patience is putting up with problems, confusion, frustration and pain without complaining about it. Putting up with difficult situations without getting angry or complaining.
Bio: Job is known for his patience. God tested him by taking his belongings, his kids and his health. Job’s friends came to comfort him but only made things worse by trying to blame Job for what he was going through. Even his wife told him to “curse God and die.” Still, Job patiently waited on God and continued to believe in him in a very difficult situation. God blessed Job for his endurance.

Bible verse: “You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. Don’t grumble against each other, brothers, or you will be judged.” (James 5:8-9)

Jesus: Jesus is patient with us sinners. We keep following our flesh and doing what we know is wrong, but Jesus keeps on forgiving us and forgiving us and forgiving us. (1 Timothy 1:15-17)

Real life: My mom is the most patient woman I know. She runs a home daycare and always has kids running around, getting into trouble and demanding her attention. As exhausting as this is, my mom never loses her temper with the kids, or shouts at them or complains about her job. My mom has patience with the many children she cares for.

Application: Children come up with at least one situation where the need to work on patience.

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BigHeart Farms Kindness
Definition: Kindness is an attitude that puts others at ease. It is being nice to others and encouraging and uplifting them. Uplifting others through encouraging words and actions.
Bio: Rahab, as an inhabitant of Jericho, by no means should have helped the Israelite spies. She showed them kindness in hiding them and thus saving their lives. This certainly put the spies at ease! (Joshua 2)

Bible verse: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

Jesus: Everywhere he went, Jesus was putting those who needed him at ease. He showed sinners kindness. There are many examples of this in Scripture. My favorite is the story of the woman anointing Jesus’ feet with her tears. (Luke 7:3650) The Pharisee wanted to rebuke her, wanted to use cruel words, but Jesus simply forgave her of her sins. He was kind to her in the way he reacted to her.

Real life: Teri always shows me kindness when we meet. She always takes the time to ask how I am doing and she listens to what I have to say. She encourages me when I need it and helps me solve my problems and overcome my sins by accepting me and uplifting me.

Application: Kids come up with a practical way they can show kindness. (EG, sit with the new kid in the lunch room.)

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BigHeart Farms Goodness
Definition: Goodness is actively showing that you follow Jesus by being generous and helping others. It means standing up for what you believe in and saying thing that need to be said, even if it won’t be taken well. Standing up for what you believe in and helping others to do the same.
Bio: The prophet Elijah showed goodness when he helped lead the people of Israel away from false worship and back to worshiping the one true God. He knew that what they were doing was wrong, so he showed them that the LORD is the one true God and that they should follow him. Elijah stood up for what he believed in. (1 Kings 18:20-39).

Bible verse: “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9

Jesus: Jesus showed goodness when he cleansed the temple of the money changers. They were sinning against God and showed no signs of repentance, so Jesus stood up for what is right by kicking them out and allowing people to worship freely.

Real life: Patsy showed me goodness when I was a freshman in college and needed food. She would have me over for dinner at least once a week and when she needed to, she had no problems telling me that there was a sin in my life that I needed to take care of. She did this because she loves God and she loves me.

Application: Children think of practical ways to show goodness in their own lives.

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BigHeart Farms Faithfulness
Definition: Faithfulness means never turning your back on what you believe in. You always trust God and you are always there to help your friends and family when they need you. You do not forget about your responsibilities. Trusting God no matter what, and being someone that others can trust no matter what.
Bio: Abraham is the father of faith. To test his faith, God told Abraham to sacrifice his only son. Without questioning what God said, Abraham took his son Isaac up on the mountain, tied him up, and was about to stab him when God stopped him. Abraham was willing to give up what he loved the most in this world to show God that he loved him more. Abraham was willing to do whatever God said. (Genesis 22)

Bible verse: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2:8

Jesus: Jesus never lost faith in God’s great plan. Jesus was faithful to the prophecies in the Old Testament. He knew that he would have to die to save us from our sins, and he was faithful to do so. He went through so much pain, and he could have stopped it at any time. But Jesus stayed on the cross until it was finished, until he died in our place for our sins.

Real life: Gail has been my best friend for 12 years now, and for 9 of those years, we haven’t even lived in the same state! She is my faithful friend because she calls me often to talk and as often as possible, comes out to visit. It would be easier just to find a new best friend, but Gail chooses to be faithful to me as a best friend.

Application: Children come up with a practical way they can practice faithfulness.

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BigHeart Farms Gentleness
Definition: Being gentle does not mean being weak. Gentleness is a humble, calm attitude. Gentleness is having authority or strength of some sort and using it to guide others in a nice, non-threatening way. Having the ability to hurt someone, but choosing instead to guide them in a humble way that points to God.
Bio: Moses was a gentle and humble man. With God, he had the power to destroy the Egyptians, but he humbly submitted to God and did what God wanted him to. He showed God’s greatness not by yelling at Pharaoh, but by telling him what God would do if Pharaoh did not listen. (Exodus 7-11)

Bible verse: “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29

Jesus: Jesus showed gentleness to the woman at the well. He knew her sins and her need for him to be her savior. Jesus could have said, “you are a sinner and I’m the only one who can save you, so believe in me.” But instead, he talked with the woman and let her discover who he is.

Real life: My husband Aaron is the most gentle man I know. Our world thinks a man is “manly” when he is yelling and showing how strong he is. Aaron knows better. He knows that being gentle and submitting to God is what makes him a good man. Aaron leads me gently. He never yells at me or says that he’s the boss, so I have to listen. He listens to God and then leads me prayerfully.

Application: Children think of practical ways to be gentle.

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BigHeart Farms Self-Control
Definition: Having self-control means being in charge of your emotions, thoughts, words and actions. It means doing what God wants you to do rather than what you want to do. Being in charge of your emotions, thoughts and actions.

Bio: Joseph’s life is marked by self-control. Not only did he show self-control in resisting temptation from Potiphar’s wife, he showed self-control in how he interacted with his brothers when they came to Egypt to buy grain. He could have boasted like he did when he was young, but instead he control his emotions (he turned away to cry) and was able to rescue his entire family. (Genesis 42)

Bible verse: “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” Proverbs 25:28

Jesus: We cannot imagine the fear Jesus felt as he prayed to his Father before his arrest and crucifixion. He prayed that God would find another way to redeem us of our sins, but then he added “not my will, but yours be done.” This is the picture of self-control. It is submitting to God and letting him take charge. Jesus controlled his agony he felt while praying and let himself be crucified for us.

Real life: Jesse is a man of self-control. As a youth pastor, he is always busy serving others. He is available day and night for those who need him. It would sometimes be easier for Jesse to be lazy, to let someone else teach youth group, but Jesse chooses to submit to God and let God’s will rule in his life.

Application: Children come up with practical ways they can work on showing selfcontrol